Extramarital relations: How “My Marriage Made Me Do It” is a Cop-out

Extramarital relations: How “My Marriage Made Me Do It” is a Cop-out

Ask somebody why they had, or are having an affair and you might hear something like this: “I have a poor marital relationship. My marital relationship is dead. There was absolutely nothing occurring in the affair and the marital relationship simply occurred.”

These declarations are justifications and stop working to “get at” the underlying problems.

Bottom line:

It’s as if a marital relationship is an animal gone bad. A marital relationship does not have a life of it’s own. One is “wed” as an outcome of making some pledges and signing a paper at one point.

We idealize “marital relationship” or “romantic relationships” with the expectation we will get what we desire, without much effort to boot. A “marital relationship” is behind the 8 ball from the word go.

From day one many of us do not have an idea about how to get, construct, support and keep intimate and healthy methods of relating. We rely upon experimentation or bad designs.

If the “marital relationship” is dead, why in the world would one pick to have an affair? You include an entire layer of deceit and embarassment that ultimately will result in effects more alarming than approaching your partner and stating, “I’m actually dissatisfied. Oh well, perhaps some individuals require more issues and suffering.

If the “marital relationship” is bad, clearly, I do not have to look at me. Some of us discover it hard to look at me. Some of us never ever believe of looking at me.

Pointer: If your partner/spouse is having and affair and blames it on the “marital relationship,” do not purchase into it. The “marital relationship” is not the issue.

The “My Marriage Made Me Do It” is simply among 7 affairs detailed in my E-book, “Break Free From the Affair.” For more details on the problems behind the other sort of affairs and suggestions for handling them, visit my website.

Ask somebody why they had, or are having an affair and you might hear something like this: “I have a poor marital relationship. There was absolutely nothing occurring in the affair and the marital relationship simply occurred.”

We idealize “marital relationship” or “romantic relationships” with the expectation we will get what we desire, without much effort to boot. If the “marital relationship” is dead, why in the world would one pick to have an affair? Pointer: If your partner/spouse is having and affair and blames it on the “marital relationship,” do not purchase into it.